If you are reading this you must all be having butterflies in your stomach right now. As the first date is important as it is supposed to lay the foundation for the whole relationship.
Meeting the person for the first time can be a little nerve-wracking if you have social anxiety but it is necessary to lay a strong foundation for a life long relationship that you are planning to have with the person.
A small thing you can do is gift them flowers from a florist in kolkata or nearby your area, not a dramatic one like a red rose but you could always opt for a pink rose which also shows that you are grateful for their presence.
Here are a few tips I want you to consider irrespective of your gender
- WHY ARE YOU DATING?
Before you even think about your first date you should always ask yourself this question as if you are just dating without your plans for the commitment in the relationship then the butter truth is that YOU SHOULD NOT DATE.
The moment you decide that you are ready to commit to the person then it is the perfect time for you to go for a date as if you promise commitment to someone and then you realize that you don’t like being committed then it will do nothing but bring a burden on you.
- GROOM YOURSELF WELL
Always remember to groom yourself well as it is a must to look presentable on dates. Just be yourself, don’t wear anything shiny, or don’t wear your sweat pants on your first date. Remember if you are unable to choose your clothes for yourself then you can always ask your friends to choose one for you.
- BE POSITIVE
Remember to be positive. Don’t enter the room with things like
I’ll never be able to get a perfect match.
I’m sure that he/she will leave me after a while.
This is the energy that you will be projecting throughout your date and it is a big no!
- LIVE IN THE MOMENT
Don’t think about the future with the person or be stressed as your past relationships were bad. Just give the person a chance to put themselves forward. I know that you must be nervous but remember that the other person is nervous just as much as you are, just be calm and let the boat of relationship sail.
- BODY LANGUAGE
Always keep your body language in mind, as these small things matter a lot, remember to not stand with your arms crossed. Just mirror the other person a little. If they smile just mirror that and smile back. Remember to lean a little as it shows that you are interested in them. If they lean back then that means that the environment is a little insetting or they are finding your conversations quite uncomfortable.
- REMEMBER THE MISTAKES YOU COMMITED ON PAST DATES.
Past dates are a great way to learn if you know that you shouldn’t dwell upon them for long. Just take some time to yourself, it is the night before date or the bath you have before date, just reflect upon the dates and think about where you might have been wrong and try not to commit the same mistakes again.
- IT IS ALL ABOUT LOCATION
Always plan out the location beforehand. The cinema halls and the pubs are not ideal places for the first date as you want to know the person and, in these places, you might not be able to know anything about them as there won’t be enough time to talk. Look for a nice coffee shop or take a stroll around the park. It is just perfect.
- DON’T FORGET TO HAVE FUN
Come on! It’s a date, not your job, you should be enjoyed regardless of the fact whether romantic things that are happening or not.
If you still feel like you are not over your ex or are having issues connecting to the person’s first date is the best time to know about that, you are just getting to know a person. Even though you may not know their entire story but you will get to know about the things they will bring to the relationship.
Also, remember to take something with you on your first date. It is a flower or a bouquet. If you cannot go outside then you can always order a bouquet at your place through bloomsvilla, they do same-day delivery and flower delivery in Pune.