People make time for the people they care about.
People Make Time for Who They Want
People’s expectations that those who profess to be perpetually busy should yet make time for them and give them attention are not unusual. I’ve experienced life from both of those points of view.
It’s possible that the answer to the question of whether or not people actually make time for the things they want is arguable. It is a fact that people have a tendency to devote their time and effort to causes that they care about.
It’s also true that people have a lot of things they should be considering and working on in their lives. It’s possible that a person will reach a point where they realise they don’t have much time for themselves.
As a direct consequence of this, people opt to be alone themselves during the time that they still possess. There are times in everyone’s life when they simply want to (or need to) concentrate solely on themselves.
Because the person we care about is not devoting time to us, it could give the impression that we are being self-centered. But it’s possible that it’s for the best if some people don’t give us their time unless they genuinely want to.
It is nonetheless important for us to recognise that everyone has the right to act in accordance with their own desires. If a person can improve their happiness and sense of well-being by devoting some of their time to activities outside of their normal routine, then this is a positive development.
On the other hand, each one of us has been guilty of not appreciating people who do offer us their time at some point in our lives. There are some people who go out of their way for our attention, yet we have a tendency to ignore them at times.
When viewed from this angle, we realise that things are not always as black and white as just not giving a damn about something. It’s possible that this will make us experience less disappointment as a result.
Remember these three important things:
1. Keep in mind the things that are most important to you.
Everyone should create time in their lives to concentrate on the things that are most important to them. Your happiness in life can be greatly increased by focusing on the things that are truly important to you.
When you feel more joy yourself, you have a greater capacity to bring happiness to those around you. Invest your time on pursuits that are personally significant to you. Consider giving that some thought and consideration if you aren’t familiar with what I’m talking about.
You will eventually discover the things that are important to you. After that, you’ll be able to make that pastime a more consistent component of your life.
2. Show appreciation to people who take the time to think of you and prioritise you in their lives.
We do not always succeed in getting the attention of those we wish to pay attention to us. However, we do receive attention from individuals who truly appreciate us and who make an effort to spend time with us in a constructive manner on a regular basis.
Keep in mind that everyone you interact with has a decision about how to spend their time. They had a variety of choices available to them for how they may have spent that time. And yet, in that precise moment, when they could have picked anybody, anywhere, from a hundred to a thousand different options, they picked you.
When you consider it from that angle, it’s possible that it will motivate you to spend more time with that person. It’s possible that you could get in touch with them at some point.
3. Spend less time with people who don’t make an effort to spend time with you.
Time and attention ought to be given and received in equal measure. If you go out of your way to offer someone your time and attention, it is reasonable for you to anticipate that they will do the same for you at some point in the future.
Over the course of time, there have been some individuals who I have not reached out to as frequently because they have never spoken out to me. It wasn’t necessarily done to be spiteful; more than anything else, it was just done out of respect for the value I set on myself.
The sense of self-respect and dignity that comes from not constantly feeling the need to compete with others in order to get someone’s attention in life. You do not need to make as much of an effort to garner people’s attention because you are deserving of it.
I have faith that we are all capable of having partnerships in which we both invest time and pay attention to one another. It’s possible that some of us are going to have a harder time finding our folks than others.
Keep an open mind about letting individuals into your life, especially if they provide positive energy to you. Make it a point to go out of your way to share positive energy with other people.
Keep in mind that everyone is working for their own personal goals of happiness and fulfilment in some form or another. Let’s hope that everyone can find some of that in their lives, even if it means that we will have less time for ourselves.